【少一些评议，多一些关爱】
在人类社会中，成立家庭是男性和女性共有的愿望，但怀孕却非如此。在我们的文化中，怀孕生子仿佛仅仅是女性专有的活动。无言而谓，变性男怀孕乃至男性怀孕，必然会导致生育观念的重建。
事实上，人类社会的起源，男性和女性的划分，在当今时代已经面临着很大的挑战。复杂而琢磨不同的大千世界，是很难用一个标准来统一的。变性男怀孕生子，当然不是人类社会的多数，也会引发人们的猎奇。正如比迪所说的：“在我们的医疗社区之外，人们并不知道我已有5个多月的身孕。但是，我们的情况最终会有很多人知道。他们会按照他们自身的标准作出不同的评价”。由此可见。比迪已经有了“山雨欲来风满楼”的心理准备。
其实，在社会生活中，当少数人的行为“违背”了多数人的“标准”时，往往会有一场轩然大波，使当事人被迫陷入舆论漩涡的中心。我们有这个必要吧？当事人最需要的，是一种宁静的生活。褒也罢，贬也罢，不如还他（她）一个清平世界。在性学领域，乃至在人类生活的各个领域，当出现一些少数人的“异常”行为时，作为相关领域的专家学者，应该是少一些评议，多一些关爱。也许，这正是少数群体更需要的，尽管他们已拥有有自己的权利。
附录： 托马斯·比迪 "爱的分娩“英文全文：
Labor of Love
Is society ready for this pregnant husband?
By Thomas Beatie
To our neighbors, my wife, Nancy, and I don’t appear in the least unusual. To those in the quiet Oregon community where we live, we are viewed just as we are -- a happy couple deeply in love. Our desire to work hard, buy our first home, and start a family was nothing out of the ordinary. That is, until we decided that I would carry our child.
I am transgender, legally male, and legally married to Nancy. Unlike those in same-sex marriages, domestic partnerships, or civil unions, Nancy and I are afforded the more than 1,100 federal rights of marriage. Sterilization is not a requirement for sex reassignment, so I decided to have chest reconstruction and testosterone therapy but kept my reproductive rights. Wanting to have a biological child is neither a male nor female desire, but a human desire.
Ten years ago, when Nancy and I became a couple, the idea of us having a child was more dream than plan. I always wanted to have children. However, due to severe endometriosis 20 years ago, Nancy had to undergo a hysterectomy and is unable to carry a child. But after the success of our custom screen-printing business and a move from Hawaii to the Pacific Northwest two years ago, the timing finally seemed right. I stopped taking my bimonthly testosterone injections. It had been roughly eight years since I had my last menstrual cycle, so this wasn’t a decision that I took lightly. My body regulated itself after about four months, and I didn’t have to take any exogenous estrogen, progesterone, or fertility drugs to aid my pregnancy.
